Assumptions are the termites of relationships.
-Henry Winkler
Quote of the Day Monday, Apr 18 2011
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Video:The Purpose of Vulnerability Saturday, Apr 16 2011
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I’m not one to embrace the feeling of vulnerability. Generally I like to know where I am heading in life, what my obstacles are so I can plan on how to work around them, and if I’m not really sure of the obstacles I’ll be facing, I often walk the other way.
At this time a year ago, I was struggling with the opportunity to move 3000 miles away from my life of familiarity to attend graduate school. As I was waiting to hear back from many schools that I applied to, I was weighing my odds. Which school had the most family around that I could spend Thanksgiving with? If I didn’t get into that school, which school has the most friends around that I can spend time with?
In the end, I picked the school that was located in a place where I knew no one, and I honestly began to struggle with the vulnerable position I was in. I questioned if I had the grit to stick with this graduate program or make new friends with people that are so different from what I’ve known my whole life. About 6 months ago I watched this video, and the meaning has stuck with me since then.
It’s a 20 minute video, and I highly recommend watching it. It truly applies to all areas of life. If you don’t have time to watch it now, bookmark it for when you do have time. It will change your perspective on love, belonging, connection, and living a wholehearted life.
The Perfect Quote Tuesday, Apr 12 2011
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I was talking on the phone with one of my closest friends back home, and he shared a story about a women he once knew. In this story, my friend mentioned a quote that I thought was too good not to share.
She would say, “More perfect than you already are, you cannot be.”
It’s simple, but I love it! Maybe it was the context of the conversation I was having with my friend, but I’ll leave the quote open to your (the reader’s) interpretation.
~ Timshel
Post Script – Normally I add a photo to my posts, but I’m tired! I did however put some new pictures up on my flickr account which is displayed on the left hand side. Click the link to enjoy some NYC flavor!
Dog Gets Busted for Eating Cat Treats Saturday, Apr 2 2011
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This reminded me of my old dog and thought this video was too good not to share!
The Problem with Being Tall Friday, Apr 1 2011
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People of average to shorter height like to comment to me, “Oh, it must be so nice to be tall!” Sure, it has its advantages most of the time. I look graceful and controlled when I reach for that seasonal coffee mug on the top shelf of the cupboards. My legs are long enough that they don’t dangle when I sit in a big chair. I don’t have to worry about sitting behind someone with big hair at the theater, although I did find that a top hat could cause some visual distortion blockage!
But as Peter Parker’s grandfather said, with great power comes great responsibility. So yes, while things are easier there is a downside. I have trouble fitting into showers. While the average joe can have water cascade down their shampooed head, I have sadly had to hang up on my dreams of being in a shampoo commercial. When I wash my hair I look more like a novice yoga enthusiast following an instructional DVD at home. Lets follow that point with the fact that beds are not made for tall people. Now, I’ve slept on a twin my entire life and have grown accustomed to the width, but the length is another story! My feet are consistently cold because I can’t sleep crumpled up into a human doughnut hole. I need to stretch out, leaving my feet exposed to the cold air surrounding my bedsheet forcefield. When I was younger and shorter my feet would stay warm all winter, but now I’m that guy that sleep with socks on. What’s next? A pocket protector? Suspenders?
Now that you have a rough idea of a minute amount of struggles that tall people endure, I want you to imagine a social situation. You’re at the point in a friendship/relationship that you have moved on from the cursory “goodbye!” to the hug. Your mind begins to race as you are trying to assess the height of the other individual. How do you want to hug? Your options are:
1. One arm on top, one arm under
2. One armed side hug
3. Both arms on top (this leaves the shorter person with their face in your chest or armpit)
4. Bend down and stick your butt out so their face isn’t in your chest or armpit
5. Both arms are under the arms of the recipient (this too leaves your derrière sticking out)
Let me guess, you went with the one arm on top and one arm under option? Yeah, that’s what I try to do too….. it doesn’t work. The shorter person always wants to put both of their arms on top which leaves you attempting option #5.
I’m not saying that it’s better to be short than tall, but that it simply evens out. There’s advantages for both, but I do wish shampoo commercials would let me at least audition…
~Timshel
This kind of hug could happen to anyone. Be forewarned!
~Timshel~ 